So, you’re thinking about getting a kitten. That’s great! Being a feline-owned human is a wonderful experience.
But which kitten should you choose? Ah, the possibilities are inexhaustible! There are flat faced kittens, long-haired fluffy kittens, quirky hairless kittens, and the list goes on and on.
And even after you’ve decided on the sort of cat you want in terms of appearance and grooming needs, you’re left wondering about the gender. Does it even matter?
Do male kittens have advantages over female kittens, and vice versa? Is there such a thing as a feline battle of the sexes?
Well, the first thing you should know is that each kitten has its own distinct personality. On top of that, each cat breed comes with its own unique character traits. Some breeds such as the talkative Siamese and loving Maine Coon are very sociable and affectionate, while others might be more reserved and need more alone time (don’t be a bothersome human)!
Not to mention that spaying will also have an effect on feline behavior – don’t worry, it’s usually positive.
So what are we going to discuss in this article, then? Well, we are simply going to go over some general advantages and disadvantages of male vs female cats. Let’s get a better idea of which kitty gender is best for you!
The Pros and Cons of Male Cats
Many people say that male cats, especially neutered male cats, can be more affectionate than female cats. Male cats are said to be more even-tempered and predictable than female cats and even more laid-back and relaxed than their female counterparts.
But it’s not all cat kisses and snuggles with male cats, they also come with some drawbacks, like…
- Cat Spray. Un-neutered male cats are almost guaranteed to spray urine extensively all over your house to mark their territory. And un-neutered male urine is invariably especially stinky.
- Incurable Escapists. Un-neutered male cats will be absolutely desperate to go outside, and is almost guaranteed to do so, no matter how vigilant you are. These cats are also likely to disappear for days on end, and to get into bad fights with other cats.
- Aggression. Un-neutered males have a very strong instinct for fighting, and will even turn their aggression on their human companions on occasion.
It is especially important to have a male cat neutered early, as when a male cat is allowed to get into the bad habits of roaming, spraying, and fighting, they are even more unlikely to leave those habits behind, even after neutering takes place.
The Pros and Cons of Female Cats
While many people claim that male cats tend to be more affectionate than female cats, many females are extremely affectionate and sociable.
Many people find that spayed female cats become almost maternal to their human companions, and are extremely affectionate, loyal, and sweet. That being said, female cats also come with some behavioral drawbacks of their own, like…
- Cat Spray. Uh-oh, bet you didn’t think that this would top the list again! Even though many people think that only male cats spray, the fact of the matter is that some females do, too. This is especially the case with unspayed females. Spraying is part of being territorial, and unspayed female cats are very likely to be strongly territorial. This is partly because of the instinct for having safe space in which to raise kittens.
- Incurable Escapism. And we have it again – another similarity between male vs female cats. Un-spayed females have a tendency to try to get outside when they are in heat, and they will likely disappear for long periods of time, too. Un-spayed females who get outside are very likely to become pregnant!
- Yowling in Heat. Un-spayed female cats in heat are extremely noisy! You will definitely get to know the meaning of the word “yowl,” and you certainly will not get your full eight hours of sleep when a female cat is in heat.
- Territorial Instincts. Female cats, especially un-spayed ones, may be a bit territorial as a result of the fact that cats in the wild have to be protective of their kittens. However, on the whole, spayed female cats are a lot less than territorial than un-neutered males (that is a bit of an understatement, actually)!
- Mood Swings. This is in no way true for all female cats, but some cat owners do claim that female cats – especially un-spayed ones – can be more more moody and unpredictable than males.
Male vs Female Kittens: The Final Verdict
What is the most important lesson learned here? It really depends much more on the personality of the individual cat than on whether they are male or female.
Spend some time with the kitten you are interested in adopting, to get to know its personality. The tendency to be sociable and affectionate usually shows up very early in life. Lollipop, the huge, cuddly calico cat that I had as a child and adolescent was a female, and she was extremely affectionate right from the very start!
It was that characteristic of her personality that made her the one we chose. She was much more affectionate and sociable than her brother, who was the only male of the litter. This is just one example of the importance of individual personality in felines!
And as you probably already noticed from the lists above, both male and female cat behavior is hugely influenced by spaying and neutering.
Many of the drawbacks of both genders, like spraying and yowling, seizes to be a consideration if you’re going to spay your cat. So overall, whether you decide on a male or female kitten is less important than finding a kitten with a personality that’s the purrfect fit for you and then making sure that your cat is spayed or neutered at the right time!